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Family is, hands down, one of the most important things in life – however, it just so happens that not everybody is fit for such a big role.
Take this woman’s father, for instance. Everything went downhill after the divorce, and the OP never had the chance to develop a close relationship with him – plus, as the cherry on top, he also managed to promise his daughter a college fund which, as you might’ve guessed, turned out to be a blatant lie.
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Uninvolved father promises his daughter a college fund
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The woman later discovers he blew the money on his wedding ceremony
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Terry Tobias Terry Tobias Community Member Follow
When I was growing up, my father constantly told me that I was going to college because I was "the smartest one in the family". I, like the OP, got good grades, was involved in school activities, and didn't get into trouble. I was accepted into the college that I wanted to go to and was really looking forward to it, but my parents wanted me to work for a year before going. Anyway, one year later I was set to go, and just had my mandatory physical. Later that very day, my mother told me that they couldn't afford to send me. Evidently my father never saved for my education and didn't apply for any loans. I was devastated. He made good money at Kodak, but spent alot of it on non-essentials. It broke my heart. But...20 years later I put myself through university and graduated Magna Cum Laude with a degree in Psychology. I'm very proud of that and hope that others who have been in this situation realize that it's never too late!
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I have a similar story. Dad always said I was extremely smart and was going to "go places". We weren't rich, so I needed to apply for financial aid. I told my dad I needed his help and info for the application. He refused to fill out the forms. I told him I wasn't asking for any money from him or asking him to take out a loan. I just needed info so that i could apply for grants. He still said no. I had to live on my own for 5 years before I could apply again to college as an independent adult. I did it and I graduated in 3.5 years. Afterwards, I got a job in sales which led to a international sales position. So, in a way I did go places. I found out at a family reunion that my dad told everyone he was proud of me for making it without his help. I wasn't impressed and felt angry that he encouraged me and then made life harder then it had to be. Strangly, he told me he had to mow the lawn and was unavailable to watch me graduate. I think he was embarrassed, but who knows.
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To promise that to a child and then flagrantly deny/refuse/.. that's really breaking their trust in you forever
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Look, I know you don't want to hear this, but cut your father loose. He will ALWAYS try to blame you or try to convince you that it was all in your mind. You have nothing to win by staying in contact. On the contrary, it will impact you negatively. Just try it for a while and find out what your father actually contributes to your well-being.
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tom qwerty tom qwerty Community Member Follow
A lot of people stay in contact with toxic relations becuasethey feel they have to, its awful
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Terry Tobias Terry Tobias Community Member Follow
When I was growing up, my father constantly told me that I was going to college because I was "the smartest one in the family". I, like the OP, got good grades, was involved in school activities, and didn't get into trouble. I was accepted into the college that I wanted to go to and was really looking forward to it, but my parents wanted me to work for a year before going. Anyway, one year later I was set to go, and just had my mandatory physical. Later that very day, my mother told me that they couldn't afford to send me. Evidently my father never saved for my education and didn't apply for any loans. I was devastated. He made good money at Kodak, but spent alot of it on non-essentials. It broke my heart. But...20 years later I put myself through university and graduated Magna Cum Laude with a degree in Psychology. I'm very proud of that and hope that others who have been in this situation realize that it's never too late!
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I have a similar story. Dad always said I was extremely smart and was going to "go places". We weren't rich, so I needed to apply for financial aid. I told my dad I needed his help and info for the application. He refused to fill out the forms. I told him I wasn't asking for any money from him or asking him to take out a loan. I just needed info so that i could apply for grants. He still said no. I had to live on my own for 5 years before I could apply again to college as an independent adult. I did it and I graduated in 3.5 years. Afterwards, I got a job in sales which led to a international sales position. So, in a way I did go places. I found out at a family reunion that my dad told everyone he was proud of me for making it without his help. I wasn't impressed and felt angry that he encouraged me and then made life harder then it had to be. Strangly, he told me he had to mow the lawn and was unavailable to watch me graduate. I think he was embarrassed, but who knows.
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SnackbarKaat SnackbarKaat Community Member Follow
To promise that to a child and then flagrantly deny/refuse/.. that's really breaking their trust in you forever
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Alexandra Alexandra Community Member Follow
Look, I know you don't want to hear this, but cut your father loose. He will ALWAYS try to blame you or try to convince you that it was all in your mind. You have nothing to win by staying in contact. On the contrary, it will impact you negatively. Just try it for a while and find out what your father actually contributes to your well-being.
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tom qwerty tom qwerty Community Member Follow
A lot of people stay in contact with toxic relations becuasethey feel they have to, its awful
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